Don’t Pity On Me

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Is it hard to tell the truth?
Is it hard to be honest?

I don’t want you to carry those heavy weights
on your shoulder
on your mind
on your heart
Let it go
and erase your burden

Do your words got stuck in your throat?
Are you choking on your words?
Please, say something to me
Please, answer me : “Am I doing right or not?”
Don’t pity on me
cause you have the right to “like” or “dislike”
Don’t pity on me
cause you have the right to say “yes” or “no”

You don’t need to sugarcoat the fact and reality
although they can be cruel and hurtful
but, it’s better than a sweet lie
cause actually it’s so poisonous
and a poison is always deadly even though as sweet as any

Yogyakarta, August 8th, 2019-08.36 a.m.

[Self-Reflection] How Helpful Am I To Others?

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[And said] “If you do good, you do good for youselves; if you do evil (you do it) to yourselves.” Then when the final promise came. [We sent your enemies] to sadden your faces and to enter the temple in Jerussalem, as they entered it the first time, and to destroy what they had taken over with [total] destruction.

(Surah Al-Isra : 7-Noble Qur’an with English Translation)

If you are asked, what’s your life purpose? How do you answer it? The answers might be different from one to another, based on how you see this life from your own perspectives. But, most of them want to be helpful person to others. We want to be someone who can share kindness and love toward others, especially people whom we loved.

Benefit is the result from what we have done. For example, you have good habit and lifestyle, like eat healthy food, doing exercise, enough sleeping, good at handling stress etc., so you can be healthy, both physically and mentally. Having healthy body and mind is the benefit of implementing good habit and lifestyle.

Another example, you like reading in your spare time. You like reading everything. Book, newspaper, magazines, online articles etc. You like to read various topics. Politic, law, economic and business, humanities, technology, health, literature even entertainment etc. Because of this habit, you have broad knowledges so you can get many ideas and inspirations to write something. Having broad knowledges and many ideas to write are the benefit you can get from reading.

Meanwhile, the purpose or goals is something we would like to achieve in the future. Everyone wants to reach the success in their life. Whether it’s about academic, career, friendship, love etc. Success can be achieved with effort and prayer. Or with some bad acts, like bring others down. But, I won’t talk about the second thing.

In this case, reaching a success is the goals, meanwhile effort and prayer are the way you choose to reach the goals. If the success make us being a person who loves to share and inspiring others, means our success have already given benefit for ourselves and others.

The next question is, has your success (including mine) been able to benefit for others, at least for the people who’s closest to you (read : family and friends)? The answer is only known by you and God. But, I’ll give you some questions more which can help you to answer it (I hope it’ll help you).

Does the success keep you humble or arrogant? Does the success make you love and respect people around you more (esp. family and friends) or make you more ignorant to them? Does the success make you more grateful to God or make you more forgetful to thank Him (If you have beliefs that God is exists, you may answer it. But, if don’t, I won’t force you to answer)? And the last, does your success make you more mature and wise in seeing your life or make you become narrow-minded and heartless?

These questions aren’t only for you, but for me too. I’m sorry I give you too much questions in my writing today.

Have a great day everyone! Don’t forget to be happy.

[Self-Reflection] Am I Being Hypocrite?

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Knowing the truth can be hurtful. That’s why we always try to hide it behind our back, behind our good words, behind our fake smile. We are wearing masks to look more pleasing and convincing. We-humans are too good at pretending. No matter who we are.

I don’t want to explain what is the meaning of hypocrite here. If you want to know what the meaning is, just look at your dictionary or search at Google. I just want to tell you some of acts we often do or relatable with our life. Cause someone said to me that we often being hypocrite whether we are aware or not. So, it makes me so curious now, can the behaviours below be classified as hypocrisy? Okay, let me explain some.

Situation 1. Everyone has their own love story. It can be nice, sweet and romantic like a fairy tale or hurtful, pathetic and tragic like a tragedy. But, whatever it is, love is always unpredictable and mysterious.

Did you remember how’s your feeling when you love someone? You did everything to attract his/her attention. When you felt that the time or moment was right, you confessed your feeling. You promised him/her that you’d like to love him/her no matter what. You promised him/her that you’d like to accept him/her for who he/she is. Even you promised to sacrifice yourself for him/her. And many more promises you’ve told before. But, when the relationship was in conflict, you seem like forgot all your promises. Didn’t try to solve the problem so you could relieve the conflict to keep your relationship go ahead. Break up became the one and only solution. Didn’t you guys promise to always together whatever happens? Didn’t you guys promise to overcome everything together? So, where did the promises go?

Situation 2. Is there any person you don’t like in your life? I think you’re not alone. Me too. There’s always a person we don’t like no matter what the reason is. Maybe because of jealousy, maybe they did something bad to you, maybe they have problematic attitude and so on (tbh, we can’t please everyone). But, you often give compliments to them even small things or something they never do. You often praise in front of them but talk behind their back too. You often show your empathy of the bad things happened to them but judge behind their back too. So, what are all the compliments and empathy for?

Situation 3. Recognition lies on the top of needs hierarchy. Yeah, everyone needs recognition. But, how did you get it?

Have you ever lied about who you truly are to cover your flaws? Have you ever showed a fake smile or pretended to be happy just to look stronger? (In fact, your heart is hurt but not bleeding). Seems like if you are being honest about yourself, everyone won’t accept you, society would throw a judgement of who you are or what you do. Caring of what others think. Afraid if people know your flaws, your image and existence would be threatened. So, should we wear a mask? Should we live in a lie to please others? Should we act and behave “not like ourselves” to be accepted by the society?

And my last question, if I have done all of them (whether I’m aware or not), am I being hypocrite in my entire life?

Yogyakarta, June 14th, 2019-06.25 a.m.

*) Have a great day everyone. Don’t forget to be happy 🙂

[Self-Reflection] Happiness On Social Media

What are you looking for?

Making your face brighter, more red lips or looks like you have slim figure. Actually, you have no that looks. Huh, it’s a lie, dear! How could you do that?

Taking a photo of what eat today, with an instagramable serving or background behind you.

Posting your romantic Saturday Night photos with your boyfriend/girlfriend, with a #relationshipgoals (I wonder what’s the meaning of relationship goals itself) Although you’ll feel difficult to delete all the photos later or posting a broken-heart status when you break up.

Showing off of your branded items you’ve bought. Making others jealous and craving to have it even though they have no enough money. Maybe it’s not their needs, just for rising their prestige if they can have it.

Showing off of your new workplace in multinational or international company, claiming “that’s what success looks like”. If others haven’t already reach your level, then you underestimate them. Actually, you don’t know that everyone else is doing something on their dreams. Have I ever told you that “life isn’t a races?” Everything needs a process, dear! There’s no instant process. A process needs your sacrifice (time, money, mental strength or maybe your emotions). And there’s no fix standard on describing “success”.

So, what are you looking for?

Recognition? Compliments? Comments? Like?

Then, what will happen to you if you don’t get all of them?

If you describe what you see on social media as a happiness, what about people that prefer to keep it themselves? Just posting a certain photo or sharing a certain moment at least one or two times in a month. Aren’t they happy with their life?

You can’t see what happiness looks like. You can’t smell, taste or touch it. You only can feel it in your deepest heart.

*) Sorry, if it makes you feel triggered or uncomfortable cause I’m kinda sick of what happened on social media today. Have a great day everyone! Don’t forget to be happy 😊

Yogyakarta, June 12th, 2019-06.38 a.m.

If The Time Turns Into A Ghost, Where Are You Going To Hide?

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In this life, we always race against the time. The time slowly erases our age number till its end. If it comes to us, we’ll only be people who carry out our stories.

We’re the true explorer who wander to taste bitter-sweetness of life, find wisdom and sometimes immerse ourselves into contemplation. The time shows us some unexpected places, brings us together with another names and creates a beautiful memories on our minds. But, the time slowly cut out of the distance between life and death without us knowing it.

The time is like a mystery. It can make us find the answers of questions then mislead us to another questions.

We are all walk in the time tunnel. Sometimes, we have to grope the walls in the dark to keep ourselves going and not falling. Sometimes, we have to leave memories trace on every path we have passed. Sometimes, we have to quit on the crossroad to think again which way should we choose for the next journey.

In this journey, there’re always people who are ready and not ready. The time doesn’t know the word ‘wait‘. If you’re not ready, it can be a ghost who will chase and stab you. And if the time turns into a ghost, where are you going to hide?

Yogyakarta, May 23rd, 2019-08.34 a.m.

*) P.S. : I don’t know whether I use the proper grammar or not