Humans Are The Most Complex Creature : A Thought and Criticism

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This article was inspired by a comment from a netizen in one of the discussion forums on social media who easily judged others simply because of too much hatred on his/her heart, not for make sense reasons. That netizen was involved into a heated argument with other netizens. I write this article because I feel concerned why there are still many narrow-minded people who easily judge others by ‘like’ and ‘dislike’ only.

When I decided to write this article, believe it or not, I need to calm myself down first. Tbh, dealing with this kind of people can drive me crazy.

The thing that pissed me (and the others) off cause of that netizen is he/she judged someone in the forum who often hides his true feelings as a hypocrite,fake and yes-man person. Smile on the outside but cry and hurt on the inside. He/she said that someone who acts like that has no character at all, 0 (zero) attitude. He/she jumped on a conclusion too quickly without knowing the life background of the person he/she judged. I’ll just tell you the summary here.

Actually, the person he/she judged, has dark and painful past. Yes, the person he/she judged, was a victim of violence in his past. His existence is always wasted even by his family. Till finally he met a good person who trusted him a lot and then become his boss and give him a work. Since then he became a very loyal and responsible person, especially to his boss, but always hiding his emotions from others.

One day, he was entrusted by his boss to keep “a big secret”. The secret may not even be known by the boss’ family. The boss himself will explain it to his family someday when the moment is right. Apparently, without realizing it, his boss’ sister began to become suspicious and forced him to tell the truth. But, he kept avoiding and clinging onto his promise not to tell the secret to anyone. He felt that it’s not his right to tell the truth to his boss’ sister. That’s why that netizen labeled him as a hypocrite, fake and yes-man person.

We can’t just blame on someone even though what he/she does seems “annoying” for us. We can’t just blame on someone even though what he/she does seems “wrong and bad”. We have to understand what’s the reason he/she act or behave like that. In what condition, those action or behaviour can be considered as “right” or “wrong”? I believe there’s always a motive behind human’s action or behaviour even though we never really understood. I also believe that people who committed in crime, have become a victims of crime in their past, not just because they have a tendency to be a criminals. For example, a pedophile, usually ever become a victim of sexual abuse in his/her childhood. A cold-blooded killer might be a person who often got violence from people around him/her since he/she was child. And many other examples.

You know, people’s character are varies. There’re quiet, introvert, shy, calm and soft-spoken people meanwhile there’re people who’re cheerful, bubbly, energetic, extrovert, hyper and life of the party. There’re people who’re straight-forward so they can speak up their minds easily and directly. But, there’re also people who’re more secretive so they often find difficulties in explaining what they want/don’t to others. Then, which one is worse? Which one is better?

In my opinion, there’s nothing better or worse. Nothing is more superior than others. All of them are unique. All of them are complemented toward each other. Each of these characters can be a weakness or an advantage for someone. depending on its situation and condition. Depending on how he/she handles and deals with it.

Everyone has their own negative and positive sides. Everyone can do the right things but sometimes can be slipped too by some mistakes. Be wise in judging someone/something. Try to see it from different perspective. So, instead of blaming on others, why don’t you introspect yourself?

Have a great day everyone! Don’t forget to be happy

Your Writing Shows Who You Are

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Writing, like our speech, is a reflection of our thoughts and feelings. People can find out what we are thinking or feeling through our writing. Through our writing, people can understand what kind of topic we are interested or concerned in. Through our writing, people can get informations, inspirations or motivations. Through our writing, people can also judge what kind of person we are. That’s why we shouldn’t write something carelessly.

There’re two main things that must be obeyed by every writers : honesty and efforts. Many good writers really poured their heart into their writing. Their writing can be inspired by their own experiences or their circumstances. I know that there’s no 100% or absolute originality in writing because the idea of writing is actually a combination of various ideas that we rewrite again in our own writing style. Same ideas, same topics but different perspectives, different writing styles can make a distinction between one writing to another. You are allowed to be inspired or cite from other’s writing, but, plagiarism is not permitted. You are also not allowed to write a lie (e.g. fake news). Once you write a lie, people will see you as a liar. So, honesty is a must.

Although you’re still an amateur, although you still learn how to be a good writer, although you only write something based on what lies in your heart, you still need efforts to make it done. Do not ever make a writing carelessly even though you just post it on your social media (including your private blog). Do not ever make a writing carelessly just because there’re not many people read or click ‘like’ on your post. If you want to write an analysis about some of serious topics, you should read some references and even look for valid data to support your argumentations. Even you just write a fiction, you still need to read some references from other writers. Reading and writing are complemented toward each other. You can’t get rid of one of them.

If you want to post your writing or submit it to mass media, you have to do editing first. You can check if there’re typos and grammatical errors or not. Make sure there’s no contradiction between the title and content, each paragraphs and even each lines of the paragraph. Don’t underestimate the efforts even if it’s the smallest thing, because we’ll never know what will happen next to our life.

Writing requires persistence, patience and caution because your writing can show who you are. Whether people’s judgement of you are right or not, you still have to be careful of what you write. When you write a poem about heartbreak, people can assume you are broken hearted person. When you often write about culinary and travelling , people can assume you love to travel a lot and food lovers. When you write in a formal style, people can assume you as a serious person. So, how’s your writing says about you? Can you guess what kind of person I am or what I’m interested in based on my writings?

Have a great day everyone! Don’t forget to be happy