Your existence is a peacefulness among the blatant lust You’re like a water that put out an anger so that it can’t spread to all directions You’re like a home a place to return my longing after a year of separation You’re like hands that lend a forgiveness and embrace with an affection even though my sins are as much as the sea foams
You’ll leave me Replace with new month And I’ll wait till you come over meonce again
Night before Eid Al-Fitr, May 12th, 2021 (30 Ramadhan 1442 H)
Someone who gives birth and takes care of life? Someone who can do and be whatever she wants? Someone with tenderness and power at the same time?
Someone who has lower status than men? Victims of patriarchal system? or just sexual objects for men’s satisfaction?
Hundred years ago, we rarely found well-educated young women in our society here, especially in Javanese Land. The tradition forced young women to be secluded at home (pingitan) and waiting for the wedlock.
Many young women lost their youth too early. They lost their dreams, freedoms, rights to get better and higher education. They really had no power to refuse.
The same thing happened to a 12 year old Kartini. Luckily, she was born into a noble family with strong intellectual tradition. That’s why, her family allowed her to attend school before her seclusion.
Among other subjects she got from school, she learned Dutch (and fluent in it), an unusual accomplishment for Javanese woman at that time.
During seclusion, girls weren’t allowed to leave their parents house until they were married. But, Kartini’s father was more lenient. He gave his daughter privilege to attend special events in public with him and took embroidery lessons.
Kartini also self-educated herself during seclusion by read many books, newspapers and European magazines. She had deep interests in European feminist thinking and desired to strive an education for women so that they could be equal with men.
She also discussed her ideas a lot to her several Dutch pen pals, such as Rosa Abendanon, Stella Zeehandelaar, Mrs.Ovink Soer, through her letters. Later, after Kartini’s died on September 17th, 1904 (at the age of 25), Mr. J.H. Abendanon, Minister of Culture, Religion and Industry for East Indies, collected and published her letters that she had sent to her friends in Europe.
Hundred years after Kartini’s died, we commemorate her birthday every April 21st. If it’s not in pandemic, we would see every female, in schools, offices, public services wears kebaya (an upper garment opened at the front traditionally, made from lightweight fabrics, such as brocade, cotton, gauze, lace or voile) and completed with “sarong kebaya”(jarik) as a bottom.
We would see parades in the street and held events to enliven the commemoration.
So, how do we commemorate Kartini’s Day without those fanfares?
Pandemic that makes us to stay at our homes, should be our contemplation of how the ideas can make a change even though our bodies are trapped in a seclusion.
People can imprison our bodies, but not our minds. Not our ideas.
Kartini proved to us that woman can use her potentials to empower herself and others.
She proved to us how a woman can have such thought that’s beyond its times and being the inspiration to the next generations.
We should be thankful of her ideas of emancipation even though we still have long run to fight for gender equality. Because it’s not easy to change an old tradition that passed down from generations to generations.
We need more women who aren’t afraid of expressing their thoughts. We need more women who aren’t afraid to break the old beliefs that have no relevance to our lives today.
I’m glad that many forums give us chances to talk about women and the issues around them this month. And I hope that in the future we can see more women speak through her works.
-Waiting for iftar (ngabuburit) in the end of April 2021-
You’ve told me truth is the key to unlock the mystery to break the barrier that prevents us to look up the reality
You’ve told me to not sugarcoat the fact do my words through an act that’s how you reflect of what you say alike
So, I’ll tell you here to slap me with your honesty this bitter-sweet must be served no matter how sweet the poison is don’t make me drink it no matter how bitter the medicine is don’t you dare to kiss me with your lie
Which one do you choose? Write everyday or take several days in a week to write?
For some people, writing isn’t only a hobby. It’s their main jobs.
They might be journalists, columnists, novelists, essayists, poets, editors, copywriters etc.
They gain money from writing.
Meanwhile, some people, who make writing as their hobbies, writing is one of the best stress reliever. It can be a great escape from busy days.
I think we couldn’t agree more that writing has many advantages.
It helps you to speak your mind and heart out through the words. Helping you to ease the pain and burden.
Writing is often used as therapy for people with mental disorders. Psychologist or psychiatrist often suggest them to express their problem honestly through expressive writing.
If you want to make some money while doing your hobby, writing can be one of the best choice. Whether you do it as your main or just side job.
Isn’t it a fun thing to do?
But, I have to admit that sometimes we can feel bored of what we do. No matter how we love writing, there’re times when we need to take a break.
So, here are the reasons why every writer needs writing break.
To give you some times to refresh yourmind. Don’t force yourself to write when your body, mind and soul are exhausted. Deadline, report, meeting, presentation, dealing with client, assignment, exams etc can be really exhausting for you. Breath fresh air, eat healthily, do workout, meditate, take a rest, do something fun or relaxing to refresh your mind and gain more energy.
To give you some times to explore new ideas from various sources. Sometimes, you’re feeling stuck and lack of ideas. You just stare at a blank page and no words are coming. Yeah, that’s writers block. So, you need to break the writers block by taking your time to explore new ideas from various sources. You can read a book, blogwalking and greet your blogger friends, take a walk around your home, gardening, travelling (notes : don’t forget to follow Covid-19protocol during pandemic), talk to your family/friends/loved ones etc. It’s really helpful.
To give you some times to evaluate your writing. Maybe you wrote it in a hurry, so it might have some mistakes and not proper enough. Maybe you didn’t have much time to write, so, you only did a short writing (except poem). After re-reading and evaluating, you realize that the idea of your writing can be developed more.
So, how do you spend your writing break? Let me know your opinion and experience in the comment section.