How Hard to Be A Woman

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Make Up

Wearing bold make up : “why do you apply too much?” “Is that a face or drawing book?” “Natural make up is prettier

Wearing natural make up : “you’re so lucky to have such a beautiful face and skin (throwing a jealous stare)

No make up : “woman should know how to look beautiful and presentable

Clothes

Wearing long hijab (for Muslim women) : *being labeled as more religious rather than women who wear shorter hijab*

Wearing niqab (for Muslim women) : *being labeled as terrorist

Wearing revealing clothes : *being labeled as a bitch* -___-

(For this part, I take an example of what have happened (usually) in Indonesia. So, it might be different from your country)

Body Shape or Size

Thick : “you look ugly! you should diet!” (I have a close friend. She has big body. But, her friends, including me, hope that she won’t do (extreme) diet cause she’s already beautiful even with her thick body)

Thin : “do you really have boobs and butt?” (If you ask me this kind of question, let me slap your face with clog)

Feminine vs Tomboy

Loves pink, wears skirt/dress, plays barbie doll, watches romance movie, wears high heels, loves shopping etc : “ew..too girly! not cool” (Tomboy girl feels more superior than girly girl)

Loves black (dark colours), wears jeans, wears sneakers, football lovers, listens to dead metal/punk/rock music etc : “are you really a woman?”

Gentle vs Fierce

Being gentle, innocent, lady-like, elegant : *being labeled as weak, not independent, cry-baby, inferior, submissive, can’t stand up for herself*

Being bold, fierce, brave, independent : “men will be afraid of you. so, please, act like a lady” (Sir/Ma’am, I don’t behave to attract men’s impression cause I’m not an attention seeker)

Working Mom vs StayatHome Mom

Working mom : “You’re so selfish and materialistic

StayatHome Mom : “You waste your degree and achievement just to stay at home” (Although you have good carreer, you still have responsibilty to take care of your husband and children)

Single vs Married

Single : “When will you get married?” (Fyi :If you’re Indonesian woman, at least 25 years old, but you haven’t introduced anyone yet as your boyfriend or future husband to your family, then this question will haunt you like a nightmare)

Married : “when will you have a child?”

Married + 1 child : “when will your son/daughter has sibling?” (Meanwhile their baby is still a month)

Conclusion : Honestly, we live in society which everything is rated based on men’s point of view. Meanwhile, we also live in society which women ‘kill’ each other. We can’t please everyone. So, no need to think that much about what they’re saying. You can disagree of others opinion, but, don’t throw a hate comment. You can have your own standard, but, don’t push others to follow your standard. You can have your own preference, but, don’t push others to follow your preference. Because it might not fit in/doesn’t work on someone who has different culture, habit, social status, religion and so on.

*) notes :

Hijab : a veil worn by Muslim women in the presence of any male outside of their immadiate family, which usually covers the head and chest

Niqab : a garment of clothing that covers the face, except eyes, worn by some Muslim women as a part of particular interpretation of hijab.

4 respons untuk ‘How Hard to Be A Woman

  1. I could not agree more. I don’t wear make up as its my own liking but the comments I receive is hilarious prompting me to think if really wearing makeup upgrades one’s personality?????
    Being a working lady, I am being judged as a mother who doesn’t give importance to child.
    It’s not easy being a girl, a women.
    But we still need to go on with all this judgements.

    Disukai oleh 1 orang

    1. I think makeup is for upgrading someone’s look not personality. If you want to upgrade your personality, you need to learn or practice. Am I wrong?
      Btw, thanks for sharing your experience. Have a great day.

      Disukai oleh 1 orang

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